For Everyone Who Has Asked…
When I first contemplated writing down what I’ve gone through over the last 12 months I quickly rejected the idea. At first I thought that no one would care, that the story wouldn’t relate to anyone and honestly, it would be a waste of my time.
Over the last 2 weeks since publishing my first post I’ve had over 15,000 people read the blogs, 100’s of positive comments, tonnes of messages from people out the blue saying they’ve enjoyed reading it and the most meaningful part – people asking for advice.
This has ranged from people wanting to know how to get fitter / healthier from exercise to people wanting to give up alcohol but feels that peer-pressure is stopping them. I’ve even had a few people who have reached out because they genuinely just need someone to speak to.
When I finally talked myself into written down what I’ve been through over the last year my objective was to help just 1 person, other than myself.
After countless questions asking “How” I managed to give up alcohol, I’m writing this blog to give you the 3 tips to stop.
1. “You Are Not Boring”
I strongly believe this is the biggest factor in anyone under the age of 30 not being able to give up drinking. Peer-Pressure
A) “What will my friends say?”
B) “Everyone will think I am boring”
c) “I won’t be able to go to any social occasions”
These 3 statements constantly rang through my head when considering to make the decision. Each one of them, couldn’t have been further from the reality.
A) If they are your friends they will understand – they may even feel the same as you…
B) You develop a new lease of life and your personality flourishes when your self-esteem increases
C) You’ll end up going to more, more time – the ability to drive everywhere, your social calendar becomes packed.
Because you don’t get drunk you remember nights out and the stories last for longer.
Me at Coachella – stone cold sober
2. Replace The Craving With Something Manageable
N.B This is for those who see themselves dependant on alcohol
Everyone gets the urge to crack open a bottle of wine and ends up finish it off – quicker than they perhaps should have. We’ve all had them long days at work where we just want to come home and “reward” ourselves with a glass of red.
But a bit of science for you…
Dopamine plays a major role in reward-motivated behavior.
“The adrenaline is carried to the brain via the bloodstream. Alcohol does not lead to an increase of dopamine throughout the brain; it only causes an increase in dopamine in the area of the reward pathway”
The increase in dopamine concentration in the area is the “high” experienced from drinking:
- Discover New Things. …
- List Down Your Small Tasks. …
- Listen To Music. …
- Increase Your Tyrosine. …
- Reduce Your Lipopolysaccharides. …
- Exercise Often. …
- Establish A Streak. …
The 2 that worked best for me were:
- Discovering new things… by traveling
Marienburg Castle – Home of George I in Hannover where I spent the weekend in February
2. Food Rich in Tyrosine…
My reward after a long day went from a glass of wine to a grilled cheese & Avocado sandwich.
When I achieved a major milestone like 3 months, 6 months etc I rewarded myself with a holiday for the handwork.
Developing a new stimulus response pattern, in the long run, will replace the need for a drink and help you decrease your consumption.
3. Don’t Hide It
Linking back to the points above, as soon as I spoke to my friends/family about trying to give up alcohol I had nothing but support.
This may seem to someone reading as an obvious step, however sitting down with your parents and telling them you think you have a problem is never easy, for anyone.
You think it over in your mind time, after time, after time about how they will react. They will do nothing but help you, it’s the small things which make a difference.
Going out for meals and someone buying you a drink without asking, always having beers in the fridge, Thursday drinks at work or buying champagne as a present all of these occasions seem very normal for anyone but if this sounds similar to your life it’s almost impossible to find the right time to start.
Celebrating 10 months
If you want to read what will happen a year after stopping / managing click What Happens After One Year Of Not Drinking.
To find out why I’m not drinking click Start With Why?
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